Syrian Refugees: I'm Sorry, We Have a "Not Right Now" Problem



Refugees - I'm sorry.

I'm sitting here drinking my hot cup of tea, bundled up in a $40 sweater, typing on my more than $1K mac. I'm reading about your torture and I'm angry. But in the moment I'm comfortable.

While you suffer, I'm eating dinner. While you drown, I'm brushing my teeth. While you wander across land that's not yours, it's just a brand new day for me in the same old routine.

I like having this comfort too much. I like my life...

I'm sorry.

I'm angry that no one wants to take responsibility for your safety or basic human needs. But I've got to tell you that our response, or lack there of, is all because of this problem that we have - it's a not right now problem.

All of you other countries around the world - take these people in! But us, not right now. You guys please find God, He's the answer! But we can't show Him to you, not right now. You will get help in due time when it really matters! But not right now, because we're not even sure what "when it really matters" looks like.

I'm sorry.

I'm a Christian and I'm supposed to be carrying the torch on what freedom and fearlessness really looks like, but not right now. You see my Governor he says he's a Christian too, but he's too scared to let you in. He could be a huge contributor to forming some sort of strategy to bring refugees in and still protect our nation, even if it is a smaller select number, but not right now. He, we, could remember that Christ cares more about reaching out to the hurting more than he does being safe, but not right now. My governor may still be super busy worrying about our own morality right now, so no time to save people. Not right now.

Refugees - I'm sorry.

But it's time to be honest. Sorry isn't good enough. And our fake love isn't good enough. Distant "love" doesn't keep you fed or safe. Our "praying for you" promises might be little lies. It is - for lack of better words, and for the sake of being blunt - lazy, selfish, cowardly bull. It is thumb-twiddling, acting busy, seemingly apologetic, crap. I can see Jesus flipping another table right now.

We are the next pharisees. 

I'm so tired of Americans and Christians alike being a "not right now" people. What we're doing right now is hiding. Behind our screens, behind our style, behind our jobs, behind our lifestyle, behind our obligations and appointments. We placed this all on ourselves. You, refugees, have nothing to do with this fear, deep shame, and doubt that lives in us. We fan that flame daily and we think we love it.

Brothers and sisters, it's time to wake up and not fear death. Or even more shockingly, it's time to wake up and not fear much smaller things: sharing your home, sharing your money, sharing your food, sharing your clothes, sharing His word. Is the only thing you're actually doing right now is focusing on hoarding those small things you clearly cherish more than Jesus? For those who aren't Christian, do you cherish these frivolous things more than love and simple humanity? 

There is never an option for "not right now." There is no such thing. Time moves. God moves. People move. A people in need is moving toward you RIGHT NOW. They can't even plead their case with you because they don't have time to make their argument when they're drowning, starving, dying, weeping, suffering.


Americans, Christians - 

Don't read this and feel more shame or guilt - feel awakened and ready. Don't get suggestions on how to help and stay seated - rise up and choose to do one of them. Don't read this and push it off to "not right now" - share it and DO.

  1.  Click here to see practical ways to help.
  2.  Click here to have the opportunity to serve refugees and lose that fear, that insecurity and doubt.

I'm sorry, refugees, that it took us so long. But a few good people are ready right now. 


I hope you see this apology, refugees. I hope it spreads like wildfire.

- J



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Jenny Fleming

Are you wondering how this whole Three to Abandon thing came to be?

Well, you're in the right place!

Meet Jenny- the brilliant mind behind the founding of Three to Abandon.

Do you ever look back and realize your road to a big life milestone actually started long before you even knew what was happening? Like when you really think about all the components, all the moments, the things you believed to be irrelevant...  you realize all of it ended up being a part of something really grand? 

No? Maybe?

Well, that's a big-picture view of Jenny's story.

Since Jenny was a young girl, she had big dreams, a strong personality, and very different ideas that she just didn't know how to chase or embrace. 

So naturally, as she got older she channeled all of this personal dichotomy and uncertainty into a career in Marketing and Advertising. But of course, this perceived freedom would be short-lived.

After moving around a lot, having many different roles, she knew the corporate life was unfulfilling, albeit entertaining.

She started to wonder what her true calling was, and this thought would continuously come back around, whispering to her soul, as if someone were gently tapping her on the shoulder.

Eventually, she started working with a Christian non-profit in their creative department. Steadily her thirst for a deeper relationship with Christ grew. She was also starting to believe her talents finally held meaning! Finally, she was using what God gave her - her weird ideas, her strategic mindset, her creativity - for the greater good. How grand! 

But yet again, that job satisfaction only lasted for so long, and yet again she was asking God "is this really what you would have me do with my life? Is this what I'm meant for?"

She started to chip away at figuring out God's plan for her life, her purpose. Very intentionally.

But just like Rome wasn't built in a day, it took a while for her to discover the purpose God had for her, and she prayed for more than a year on that topic specifically. 

Finally, a year later, the first thing He told her to do in pursuit of the purpose for her life, after all of this mess and all this time, was simply "Do." 

That's it. And there she was. She was both excited yet unsure. His message was so...   vague.

After processing for a bit, her response was just as short as his message to her. "Ok,"

It was then she realized that she had not ever in her life actually been living in pursuit of her calling or her purpose because she hadn't actually been chasing it. She wasn't actually DOING anything bigger or more daring than just her day-to-day job in order to find it.

News flash: you do not find your purpose in the comfort of the norm.

It was all coming back around for her now, full circle. He gave Jenny a diverse - and at times contradicting - toolkit of talents and strengths, so that she might use it all to seek and find.

She didn't know where she was headed day-to-day, but she knew, every moment during that time period, that God had her going somewhere specific. There was no stopping it. And she had no doubt or fear about it. That's when Three to Abandon bloomed.

Little did she know, helping others find God's purpose would be part of her purpose today. It has all led to this.

This is a non-profit organization that has engaged hearts and souls from people all over the U.S. , Canada and beyond, that's helping them find out who they really are and who they're really meant to become.

What will happen next? We have absolutely no idea! What we do know, is that right now, people are finding hope and finding their purpose through this organization. We kid you not - Jenny's crazy journey to purpose has paved the way for you if you are willing to simply explore it. 

I hope this portion of Jenny's life story has inspired you to get up and chase what God has for your life and abandon anything that's held you back so far.

If you start that journey with us, great. If it's through some other avenue, great.

Either way, let's do it. You're going to look back and some point like Jenny, and it's all going to make sense.

Where is Jenny now? 

Currently residing in Texas, Jenny and her husband Zac, are expecting their first child in October 2018. From 2015-2018, Jenny had been the creator, dreamer and builder of Three to Abandon.

We are so thankful for Jenny's unique PURPOSE! Our community wouldn't exist if she had let insecurity, doubt or fear get the best of her. One of Jenny's main purposes is now focusing on being the best mom a kid could have (and if we are being honest, the Three to Abandon community is a little jealous of the new lil babe who gets her love and affection).

From the bottom of our hearts- THANK YOU! Thank you for creating, dreaming, living and breathing God's purpose for your life. 

- Guiding verse:  2 Timothy 1:7 -